Adoption

I am always amazed at how many people have contacted me about adoption.  I guess i just haven't been aware that there aren't many people out there in the world who will WILLINGLY talk about it. i have always been very open about my experience with it- growing up as an adopted child wasn't easy. but i really am shocked at how many people aren't open about it. i've had other kids who were adopted contact me because they feel like they can't talk to other people about it- because the other people just don't get it. which is just odd for me- because a lot of my support growing up came from friends who had no ties to adoption at all- except for me. maybe its just cuz of the fact i'm from Utah- maybe utah is more open about it? i don't know- but honestly i am shocked about it.  i've also had a lot of birthmoms contact me because they are nervous about how their kids will turn out. they don't know who else to talk to about it. i have to tell them that each case is different, but as far as i know- there are very few cases where the child will turn out badly. i know of one case that a kid has- but there were a lot of special circumstances with that kid.

I just wish i could help so many more people- i feel like i do more damage than good sometimes. but i'm trying to help- because it is a hard topic with a lot of controversy towards it. And sometimes i just don't know what to say...i want to help but there isn't always a good way to say something. its also hard to talk to the adopted kids who do resent their biomoms because they feel like their mom "gave them up", which is sad- and its hard to show them that their moms didn't give them up but they gave them a better life to their child, a life they couldn't give the kid themselves!!! 

But its hard to do that- and talking to the negative people is so hard and drains my energy so much...i just wish the world would stop being so negative about this stuff...